Who's Leading Your Life? Uncovering the Beliefs Behind the Wheel

As a solo-preneur, it took me a while to realize something big: I had to develop my own sense of leadership to truly make bold moves in both my work and life. You might be in a similar boat—without consciously leading, who or what is actually in control of your life and business?

Turns out, if you're not in the driver's seat, it's likely your unconscious beliefs calling the shots. And when those beliefs are steering, things can easily get stuck. No decisions get made, no actions follow through, and the vision you’re meant to bring into the world can feel like it's trapped in a fog.

Sound familiar? That was me too. What a waste of divine guidance and life force!

I recently embarked on an excavation of my own beliefs, and let me tell you—my ego had a bit of a meltdown. The things I uncovered weren’t exactly flattering, but that’s part of the journey, right? No matter how much we grow, there’s always more to discover and more compassion to bring to those hidden parts of ourselves. Here are just a couple of the sneaky beliefs that were quietly taking the wheel in my life:

1. "I'm Not Enough"

This one’s a classic. Whether it was telling me I wasn’t educated enough, experienced enough, or unique enough, it had a strong grip on my motivation. When this belief shows up, I feel deflated, like my enthusiasm has just sunk into the mud. It would manifest as procrastination or lack of drive—I'd get inspired ideas, but they’d quickly fizzle out under the weight of not-enoughness.

But here's the thing: when I pause and bring conscious awareness to this belief, it falls apart. I can see the evidence to the contrary—years of specific experience, the positive impact I’ve made, the transformations I’ve helped others achieve. The more I recognize it for what it is, the easier it is to take action and disrupt its hold.

2. "I'm Afraid of Judgement"

This belief ties into my deep care for using influence responsibly and my desire to create equity. Sometimes—often, actually—I’d hold back for fear of taking up too much space, especially in a world where my white cis-woman privilege gives me access to things others have to fight for. I didn’t want to show up in ways that perpetuated harm.

But this fear of judgement kept me from showing up at all. And if there’s one thing I know, staying quiet helps no one. I wouldn’t be given this vision if it wasn’t important. So, I’m learning to allow myself the space to express my work fully, while also being open to feedback and growing through the process.

Of course, this fear isn’t just from this life. On a deeper, more intuitive level, I’ve traced it back to past lives where persecution for standing up to injustice and practicing healing was real—and dangerous. The fear feels baked into my bones. But acknowledging it is the first step toward freeing myself from its grip.

The Joy of Belief Excavation

Belief excavation can be a wild ride. This is just a couple of the beliefs I’ve dug up, and I know we all have our own cast of characters that sometimes sneak into the driver's seat without us even realizing it.

If you’re curious about what subconscious beliefs might be steering your life—or you want to get to know them and replace them with ones that align with your highest self—then stay tuned. My new Conscious Leadership program is designed for exactly that.

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